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Rebbeka
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Registered: 06-01-2004 Location:
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posted on 06-01-2004 at 08:07 |
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what to do?
i'm nineteen and i've always had heterosexual relationships. but none of them have ever lasted for very long. (the longest was 4 months, if you don't count the long distance relationship that lasted 1 year and 2 mos.)
nevertheless, i've always been open to romantic relationships with other women; though the opportunity never came up until my current girlfriend. we have just recently reached our seventh month (making this the longest short distance relationship yet), and hopefully, counting...
i didn't use to go on-line a lot mostly because i didn't have the means to. and now that i do, my girlfriend is getting a little too paranoid with me staying on line too long. she's particularly concerned,dare i say insecure, with me chatting with other butches.
i find our arguments about this getting very tedious. i have never given her any reason to doubt my love and faithfulness to her and i've tried countless times to reassure her. but nothing seems to work. i've never enjoyed a short leash, and she knows i will not give up going on-line. i want to make her feel secure in our relationship but i don't know how anymore, and my patience is getting thin.
i love her. but this can be pretty tiring... my friends say that i suffer from a.d.d (attention deficiency disorder) that's why i can never stick to anything for very long (from hobbies to relationships).. i'd hate to think that this is the reason for my past short-lived relationships with guys (most of whom i cared for a lot), or that it's affecting my current relationship... please tell me what to do?
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auntpolly
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posted on 06-01-2004 at 08:32 |
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No-one here can tell you what to do,in fact no-one anywhere can do that.
You have to think for yourself, look into your feelings and behaviour and think how you would like someone treating you the same way. Go from there.
Good luck
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Joan27
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posted on 06-01-2004 at 08:46 |
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Do you live with your gf?
If not then I would say it is reasonable that you not go on line around her, and perhaps if you want to spend time online then dont ask her around at that time.
You are 19 years old surely you dont expect at this age to have been in long term relationships, I personally would think that you are at an age whereby you are learning about what you want and dotn want in a relationship. It is about learning and quality on quantity of time necessarily, I feel..
So dont give yourself a hard time, let your partner know how you feel about her insecurity. And let me tell you her insecurity is about "the way she feels about herself and prolly not really your issue at all.
And if her unreasonable behaviour continues let her know that you will be re considering whether you want to be in a relationship with someone who is trying to control you in this way.
As far as ADD goes, umm ADHD is a serious condition and if you really feel you may have it perhaps you would like to be tested. But I stress it is not always the reason for why you dont stay with one relationship for a long time. Nothing wrong with trying out lots of different things in order to decide who you are and what you like.
Best of luck
Joan.
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KPrincess91
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Registered: 03-13-2009 Location:
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posted on 03-13-2009 at 18:36 |
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what to do?
dear Rebbeka!
i think your gf is reasonable to do like that. she loves you so she feels jealous of you are online too long without talking to her. if i were in your case i would do like her.
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KPrincess91
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posted on 03-13-2009 at 18:36 |
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what to do?
dear Rebbeka!
i think your gf is reasonable to do like that. she loves you so she feels jealous of you are online too long without talking to her. if i were in your case i would do like her.
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